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Rule #5 Don’t live through your hockey player.
Try not to re-live your athletic life through your child. You fumbled too. You lost as well as won. You were frightened, you backed off at times and you were not always heroic. Don’t pressure your child because of your pride.
Rule # 4 Teach them to enjoy the thrill of competition and sharpen their skills.
Don’t say “winning doesn’t count” because it does. Instead, help develop the feel for competing, for trying hard and having fun. Explain that the “Happy Warrior” who loves all aspects of play is usually the best athlete in the long term, certainly the happiest and most well-adjusted one.
If you enjoy a healthy involvement in the athletic life of your children you will naturally want to discuss their games and events and they will want to discuss them with you. The challenge is to always keep your comments supportive and to inspire your children to want to be better and more successful, not to be telling them how they can improve and succeed more often.
Some kids will thrive on the challenge of advancing in hockey. For others, warming the bench on a higher division could shatter their confidence. How does a hockey parent build their young player’s confidence and support their ambitions, all the while making sure they aren’t crushed from the pressure of unrealistic expectations? Keep it fun and keep it in perspective, no matter what level they play.
This is Percival’s first rule because it underpins all of the rest. If we cannot assure our children that they are loved, that we support them in all of their endeavors and will not judge them based on their success or failure, then what is the point of their engaging in sport at all? It is a precept, which seems obvious and simple; however, in our highly pressurized world of sport, it can become complex and is too often overlooked, even when we are dealing with children under the age of ten.
Don’t say “winning doesn’t count” because it does. Instead, help develop the feel for com-peting, for trying hard, for having fun. Explain that the “Happy Warrior” who loves all as-pects of play is usually in the long term the best athlete.
We’ve all seen them at the rink, or heard about them from other parents; we might even be one or have been one of them in the past. They yell at the players from the stands, besmirch the good name of the referee and loudly question the decisions of the coach. Some of them are less conspicuous, sitting off by themselves, intently making mental notes in preparation for the post-game conversation with their son or daughter. They might seem like the hockey parent from hell or they might pass for any other hockey parent, but they are one in the same.
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